Around a year ago I was merrily attending ACA meetings online at stepchat.com The only thing I missed with the fellowship of a real life group. In talking with a variety of people in other 12 step programs I heard a lot of comments about really needing an ACA group (rather than an Al-Anon ACA group). The focus of the programs is decidedly different.
So I ordered a few hundred dollars in books paid for a meeting space and endeavored to start a group. Of the three core members one’s in Great Britian, another is now working two jobs and the rest of the folks who drop by are just checking it out. Last week I gave notice at the church. We can’t make the rent and – to be honest – I’m tired of holding it together.
The perception is that if you build it they will come. There a million reasons not to come and the perception of “I can go next week” is all too easy. It’s like a lawn. It can be seeded with grass, but if the turf is not tended then you end up with barren muck.
I’ve heard shock, “Oh, you’re closing it down? Where will I go?” My thought, “You’ll go wherever you’ve been doing these last 6 months won’t you?” No muss, no fuss. I gave it six good months and this is all I’m giving it. Seems logical that it would either catch fire or fizzle. It fizzled. Back to stepchat.com I love stepchat – I can always hear there since it is all java based chat. 🙂